‘The Good Doctor’: Will Shaun Ever Get Over Lea?

In TheGood Doctor Season 3, Episode 18, appropriately titled “Heartbreak,”Shaun is struggling to come to terms with Lea’s rejection. His last interactionwith Lea has us wondering if he will ever recover from what happened betweenhim and Lea. Will Shaun be able to focus on his work? Will his otherrelationships suffer? Will Shaun ever get over Lea?

Tina B. Tessina, PhD, (also known as “Dr. Romance”), psychotherapist and author of Dr. Romance’s Guide to Finding Love Today, weighed in on how to move forward after experiencing unrequited romantic interest. She also gave Shaun some relationship advice.

Showbiz Cheat Sheet: What is the best way to respond to someone who admits they do not share your romantic interest?

Tina B. Tessina: Back off,be friendly, keep in mind you can’t force someone to like you. Focus on being friends,make sure your behavior is appropriate to friends, and give the person a chanceto know you better. They might change their mind if they get to know you, butyou’ll push them away if you try to force it. Focus on other people.

CS: How can you move onafter a rejection from someone you really like and want to date?

TT: Accept yourdisappointment, turn it into a learning experience. Consider whether youfocused on the wrong type of person, someone who’s just not a good match foryou. If so, start re-evaluating what you think is a good match for you. Putyour energy into work, hobbies, friends, family and projects, back off fromdating for a little while, until you get over your disappointment.

Next steps:

  • Do put it in perspective. If you’re rejected, ithurts, but count your lucky stars. You can’t have a relationship if the otherperson is not really interested.
  • Do understand that there were reasons, and theymay not have to do with you. You can’t know what the other person is thinking,so don’t make it up.
  • Do try to learn from the experience.

After your initial upset, reviewthe dynamics of your connection with the other person and analyze what wentwrong, what you could have done differently, and what you learned. There’s noneed to give yourself a hard time about it, just process the information so youdon’t repeat mistakes.

CS: When is it best to keepyour romantic interest to yourself?

TT: When the other personis dating someone else or in another relationship. When you don’t really knowthe other person and have no idea how they feel about you. If it’s an awkwardsituation, like work, make sure you have developed a connection before you ask,and ask outside of work. Asking someone at work is problematic, because youhave to see them again, so be sure you’ll get an affirmative answer (the personalready indicated they want to get to know you better) before you ask.

CS: What advice would yougive to Shaun, who now has to see her every day?

TT: Shaun has autism, sohe’s missing a lot of social cues. This makes it difficult for him to negotiaterelationships in general. He needs to understand he made a mistake and let goof his feelings for her. It isn’t love if both people haven’t signed on. Shaunneeds to treat Lea like a colleague, and forget that he’s in love with her,because he isn’t really. He’s just fantasizing.

Read more: ‘TheGood Doctor’: The Meanest Things Lea Has Said to Shaun So Far

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